Friday, December 22, 2006

I'm going to see the TransSiberian Orchestra's Christmas concert tonight! Good times with friends. Keep the spirit of the season rolling.

Go do something nice for someone else today. Don't tell them it was you!

Wednesday, December 20, 2006

5 more days till Christmas! I'm looking forward to the candlelight and carols, greetings and catching up with folks we've known for decades. I actually like getting Christmas letters! I love hearing about what people have been up to and where they've been. I know we don't all live in a big black hole the rest of the year and those Christmas letters give color and life to each family for me. If they only include the good news, who can blame them. Why should you drag out the dirty laundry. Celebrate your achievements, the good news, what you are looking forward to doing in the next year.

Soon we'll be taking our annual drive around the area to annoint our "Clark Griswald Award" honoree. We find the house with the most lights & "stuff" in the yard and leave a certificate for them letting them know that they are this years winner. I do wonder how they afford the electric bill or keep from blowing all their circuits. But I do enjoy the time with my family cruising around looking at everyones efforts from the bold and beautiful to the glorious and garish, the zany and zealous. What's new in the neighborhood and what's a new trend. It's the companionship, laughter, oohs & aahs and the memories we make as we enjoy the expression of others holiday joy.

So, go out and enjoy the company of others in this season of hope, renew and rekindle friendships that give you pleasure, and share your best with the world.

Merry Christmas

Tuesday, December 19, 2006

Merry Christmas to all. I've almost finished my cards, my shopping, my wrapping, my decorating...this is unheard of in my life experience. Of course, there are the Christmas Day guests who are coming and I have no idea what we are eating. Just another little thing.
I'm trying very earnestly to see the real spirit of the season in the midst of the frenzy. I went to see, "The Nativity Story." My friend and I were the only ones in the theater. I felt very sad. It's as if no one wants to look at the real meaning behind the overwhelming madness we've created, with the help of Madison Avenue.
The movie, which looks at some of the unkowns in the story before Christ's birth, brings to reality the time in which the events actually happened. Chilling. Oppressive. And when the Magi arrive with their gifts, when the myrrh is presented the wiseman says, "For the sacrifice." So even in the beginning the end was in sight.
And throughout the story you see the sacrifices and suffering that go on. Mary in accepting her place sacrifices her good name, nearly her life and Joseph, as she is shunned by her village. Joseph sacrifices as he accepts this obviously pregnant girl, whose child is not his, and the village looks askance at him. And so the story begins with disbelief and rejection, and continues so to the end. How glad I am that they perservered. That we can celebrate their stoic acceptance and gift to the world, which brought us all light, so we can celebrate with candles and Christmas lights and presents and feasts (although unplanned) to what is important. We honor their sacrifice. And we celebrate our relationships with the people who are important to us. After all, that's what God wanted, to be in relationship with us. So He came and He sacrificed so we could all be together. And that's what's important. Merry Christmas.

Tuesday, November 14, 2006

Friends.........

My last post was on girlfriends, and since then a lot of things have been coming my way on the importance of friends. So, I thought I'd share...

Outtakes from Second Calling by Dale Hanson Burke:

I realize now that my life in the fast lane left little time for friendships. In fact, friendships sometimes felt like a burden; something I had to fit in on my to-do list. I was not a very good friend to people who needed me. Their neediness felt like one more demand, and I barely fit it all in as it was.

Ouch....yes, I realize I have done that at times in my life. Sometimes we all feel overburdened with the many tasks we have to accomplish in a days time. Not only are we not a good friend to others, we aren't a friend to ourselves. I find that when I am not reaching out to stay in touch that I have some "thing" that I'm gnawing on and am not ready to share. Or I feel so stuck that I can't get out of my own way. That's when I should be reaching out. And, conversely, when you haven't heard from someone in a while, get in touch. You may be just the person they need to hear from and talk to.

Now I see how confused I was about the priorities of life. I wish someone had told me that if I was too busy for friends, I was too busy. Maybe someone did, and I just didn't hear them......

I am so grateful for my friends who have consoled and comforted me through difficult times....

Much of what I counted on to get me through the first half of life will do little to help me in the second. What comes next has to be viewed as an adventure. It is frightening, unsettling, uncomfortable, and unfathomable - but that's what the best adventures are like!

And we can have our adventures with our friends!! Friends encourage and support us, love us anyway, and keep on coming back. Surround yourself with those people.

...friends are the rich soil that gives form, substance, and richness to our calling. Friends, in my experience, are different in this time of life. The friendships are truer, deeper, and more involved while being, ironically, less complicated. In my second half of life, I am more inclined to value a friend for who she is and not over think the implications of our relationship. Any jealousy that once tainted the friendships of my youth has long gone away. I can honestly admire another woman's ability to do something better than me without a twinge of longing.

It's nice to be relaxed enough in your own skin that you can appreciate the differences and gifts that everyone has, and not necessarily want them for yourself. I love learning new things, but I no longer feel the need to master all things immediately and perfectly in order to be someones friend. I can appreciate them and learn from them. I can share my gifts with them, and not feel they must have them too or something is amiss.

I want to live the rest of my life with the knowledge that friendships are far more important than jobs or titles or anything that I may have valued so much in the first half of my life that I barely squeezed out time for my friends.

I am reminded of something I read long ago, that at the end of life people will not be asking for their awards, titles, possessions, etc. They will be asking for the people who are important to them. Go be with the people who are important to you. If you can't be with them, call or write and let them know that they are important. Life is too fragile and swift to let another day go by.

So, my thought for you today is, "What will be the legacy of your choice?"

I'd like mine to be love.





Wednesday, November 08, 2006

Okay, it's been awhile. I've been really busy with "stuff & things". And I've had a few complaints that I haven't written recently, so here I am.

Well, girlfriends, thanks for keeping me going. We all need a bit of prodding now and again, and you'r doing a good job with me. Thanks!

This brings to mind the importance of friendship and surrounding yourself with people who love and care about your best interests (as you care about their best interests), support you while you are going through "stuff", and call you on it when you get whiney. Yes, I have been there. I got a number of pass along emails about girlfriends last month, was it girlfriend month?, and we reallly, really do need each other. Girlfriends provide a sounding board and support system that, much as you may love them, many men cannot. I have found that many men want to "fix" things, when we don't want fixing. We just want to let the air out of a situation, get some support, a friendly ear, a bit of feedback, a cup of tea..... you know what I mean. So appreciate your friends today, send them a note, give them a call, an email, an IM or smoke signal.

I thought I'd share one of the best friends emails that came my way:

Love comes in all sizes....Your Friends will support you....And respect your creativityfor thinking outside the box....They'll be there when you need a shoulder to lean on....Or a great big hug...A true friend takes interest in understanding what you're all about....They see beyond the black and white to discover your true colors....And accept you just the way you are...Even when you just wake up in the morning. So make your own kind of music....Follow your heart wherever it takes you....And when someone reaches out to you, Don't be afraid to love them back....They may just be a friend for life....Practice patience and tolerance.....Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave....And impossible to forget!

So hug someone today & let them know how much you appreciate them. Without friends our world would be poorer, lack in color & spice, laughter & tears, comfort & joy.

Blessings on you all - M

Monday, October 16, 2006

Okay, last blog was a bit morose, but it was Friday the 13th. After a chill sunny weekend I'm feeling revived. It is important to note, that we all have up and down times. The normal flow of life. It's when the ups and downs come too fast, last too long or are extreme we've gotta watch out. It's good to pay attention to your seasonal moods. I know that Autumn is a tough time for me and that I need to keep a watchful eye on myself. For some people it's the dead of winter - seasonal affect disorder. For me it's not so much the season itself as that is the time frame of numerous unpleasant events that have taken place in my life in autumn and that makes me edgy. So awareness can help you ward off a downward spiral.

My new coaching business, What's Your Storey? is chugging along. The word is getting out there, people are referring other people. My clients are having successes and wins...I'm so pleased for them and happy to be a part of the process. It amazes me that when people sit down with an uninvolved party and hash out what is on their minds that the best solutions bubble up to the top. The client finds their own solution, which they are invested in, which makes it work so much better for them! Bliss ;o)

Now to step up and make choices that make all of our lives work more smoothly. Intentional, thoughtful choices. Morebetterfaster doesn't work. The slap and dash of that makes the clean up messy. So go forward with your life, find a trusted friend or individual to share your challenges with and hash them out to find your way and write your own story.

Thought for the day:

"Anything is possible if I really believe my work is more important than just me, and I am willing to take extraordinary steps to make things happen." ~What Is Your Life's Work?

Friday, October 13, 2006

I'm sitting here listening to the sounds of sirens and speeding rescue vehicles on a Friday night, knowing that my 18 year old daughter is out there with "those" other people.... unsafe, crazy drivers. I breathe deep, and try to let go. She's fine...probably...most likely. Yet I can't help but wonder.

One night a friend of hers was late, driving too fast on a wet mountain road, AND talking on her cell phone, then she flipped and rolled her VW beetle 2 times on a hair pin turn. She was on the phone with my daughter. We heard her scream on the phone and tell us to call 911. It was terrifying. We raced to the scene a mere mile away. "C" was shocky, but otherwise fine.
Her car had been upside down, the doors jammed shut. The off-duty cop who was behind her kicked in the windshield, they cut her seatbelt and hauled her out. That night she was lucky, shocky, but okay.

I can't tell you the number of times I've heard those sirens and actually did know the victim on the other end...in a tree, head on under a dump truck, telephone pole & trees after a slick of black ice, showing off the new high powered Mustang at school & losing control and finding a tree instead of a date. Those aforementioned actually did survive, some with long recoveries, bionic body parts and evermore nightmares. Where were you going in such a hurry? Take an extra 30 seconds, 10 MPH slower, be a few fashionably late minutes.... better late than never.

I am the worry-wart mom, but I know people who didn't walk away from their accidents, their addictions, their night of "just a party, mom." When I visit my parents in the cemetery, I visit those "forever young" people too. I pray I don't have to visit any more young ones who never got to live their dreams.

Morose? I guess so. Rage against the dying of the light, & may you stay forever young........ It all comes down to choices. How we choose what is important is how we live with the gift we have been given. What gift? Life. Our innate talents and how we share them with others. How we teach and share. Isn't that why we are here? As Maya Angelou said, " It takes a village....."

"We all choose badlly at one time or another...don't make excuse, make corrections."
~What's Your Life's Work